It can be so hard for women to trust men these days. There are just too many guys out there who are looking to lure women in only to exploit them for sexual-pleasures. They will do everything in their power to try to woo a girl and get her to lower her defenses.
And once he manages to gain her trust, he’s then going to exploit her for her body without regard for her feelings or emotions. He’s only going to want to sleep with her and the moment that she starts demanding for something serious, he’s going to abandon her. And that just breaks her heart.
It just happens all too often in this day and age. There are so many boys who are just looking to have a good time at the expense of women’s feelings. They are all for the whole “friends with benefits” setup even when girls want something more stable and concrete.
The boys will make it seem like they’re ready to commit at first just to get inside a girl’s pants. And once they’re through with her, she’s probably never going to see them again. And it happens over and over again. It hurts every single time.
You could be in a “relationship” with a guy that you’re sleeping with for a few months already – but he’s never going to give you the kind of security and assurance that you need from him to feel safe about your presence in his life. He is never going to commit to you.
And he isn’t even going to be sorry about it. He isn’t going to be ashamed for it. It’s going to be as if he doesn’t even have a heart. That’s what a lot of boys are like these days and that’s why you really have to be careful. That’s why you really need to take care of yourself.
You have to be wary of the men who are relentlessly pursuing you – not all of them are going to have noble intentions. Sure, you can get lucky and you could meet a genuinely kind guy who only wants to love you for who you are.
But chances are, you’re just dealing with a man who wants to sleep with you and leave you out to dry. And that’s the dilemma that you find yourself in. You know that real love always comes with risks, but how do you make sure that you only take a risk on people who are least likely to hurt you?
Well, it all starts with being able to read between the lines. You just have to be perceptive enough to figure out if a man’s intentions with you are noble or not. You have to have a sharp eye and you always have to stay vigilant. If you allow yourself to recklessly fall in love with someone who just wants to use you for your body, then you’re going to end up getting hurt. So you have to do your part to protect yourself. You have to be proactive in guarding your own heart.
The most common piece of advice that anyone would give you would be to just outright ask the guy what his intentions and plans are with you; ask him to actually define your relationship. However, a lot of men are just natural liars. And they will be able to lead you to believe that they are willing to commit to you even when they aren’t. So you shouldn’t be solely reliant on this method alone.
A man who is desperate to get laid is going to be willing to say anything to get what he wants. So you can’t always be trusting of his words.
One of the most effective ways to test his affections for you is to keep sex off the table. If he still wants to stay with you even though you’re letting him know that you’re not letting him into your bedroom, then that might show that he’s after something more than just sexual pleasures. But if he leaves and abandons you just because you don’t give him what he wants, then you will have dodged a bullet there.
In fact, that’s probably the most effective way to tell if all he wants is to sleep with you or not. In a healthy relationship, he should always be there for you regardless if you sleep with him or not. It’s about consistency and commitment.
He must always be willing to show you that he’s putting in the effort even if you don’t promise him sexual favors. And if he proves to you that he’s in it for more than just the sex, then maybe he really is a guy who is worth taking a chance on. Maybe he is a guy you can take a risk on. Maybe he’s a guy you can really fall in love with.