There’s this common misconception that women are always going to need men in their lives if they want to survive in this world. And I think that that’s a load of bull crap. People especially women have just got to stop buying into that mindset. It’s not true. Men need to stop thinking that the sole purpose of their existence in love is to solve the problems of the women of the world. And women have just got to stop believing that they need men to make it far in this world. It shouldn’t be like that. I am a strong and independent woman; and I can stand on my own. I can fend for myself. I am fully capable of making it in this life alone.
But that doesn’t mean that I want to. My independence shouldn’t be taken to mean that I’m a relationship hater. It shouldn’t be taken to mean that I’m a skeptic when it comes to love. In fact, you might even say that I’m a hopeless romantic. You might even say that I’m almost desperate for it. But I’m certainly not desperate enough to just let a man rule over my life for the sake of being in a relationship. Because if that were the case, the it’s not a real relationship at all. It’s no love. Love isn’t about being controlling.
Love isn’t about being able to make choices for another person. Love isn’t about completely directing the life of the person you’re with. Love is about support and acceptance. Love is about inspiration and motivation. Love is about the constant and endless stream of support. If you fall in love with me, I want you to know that I’m going to let you do so but not without my boundaries.
The truth is that even though I want love in my life, I don’t necessarily need a man. And that’s the thing about me. I’m always going to CHOOSE to love you. It’s not a necessity. It’s not something that I HAVE to do. When I fall in love with you, it’s a conscious choice that I’m going to make every single day that we’re together. When I fall in love with you, it’s a decision that I make all of the time. If I’m going to stay at your side, it’s not because I’m doing it because I need to. I’m going to stay with you because I love you and I want to take care of you. But that doesn’t mean I want you to carry me on your back for the rest of our lives together. That doesn’t mean that I want you to constantly be picking up after me whenever I slack off.